I like to visit the “other” side from time to time and read comments from non-believers on various sites.
One thing I keep seeing is situations where the person (the non-believer) finally tells their parents or friends…and BAM…rejection. Parents and friends stop talking to them (presumably because they are so hurt)..they are shunned.
It leaves me scratching my head in disbelief. I know it happens, but WHY?
God calls us to love each other. God calls us to take care of one another.
How do you think non-believers feel when us Christians, who are supposed to show unconditional love, about face and walk away from the relationship?
From reading the comments, it’s clear that it’s incredibly damaging…not just to the person who’s at a very vulnerable time (spiritual low you might say)…but also damaging to Christianity.
Our reputation should be one of loving people THROUGH a hard time in their life…not walking away. People should know us as the people who didn’t judge, didn’t condemn, didn’t shun.
So, I’ll ask the pink elephant in the room question here: Is there anyone in your family that you have severed relations with because they fell away from the church? Ask yourself…is that what God wants, or is this just my imperfect human way of dealing with difficult situations?
Reach out in love and rebuild the relationship. Don’t try to drag them to church, don’t have your pastor chat with them, don’t try to fix them…just love them and spend time with them. Show them God’s unconditional love and mercy by how you treat them.
Who knows…LIVING the Christian faith may be just the witness they need to someday return to the faith.
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